How life can change so much in such a short space of time???
That was in my mind for a long time and still is… (and little did I know how much more it could and did change).
The next day after we broke up, I decided to get organised. Get out, get a job and start thinking about my new life. My relationship pushed me away from the few friends I had and it was now time to get back to the social person I was before I let this relationship change me, make new friends and start building a life on my own.
I still had bad days, I felt I didn’t want to do anything else but stay home and cry… I lost my aunt (I’d never in a million years imagined I’d live what I lived that horrible week), I lost my partner… and I was dealing with unemployment (we all know how frustrating that can be) but I pushed myself as much as I could. LESSON 13. There is always worse. But that doesn’t mean your problems are not important for you and in my own little world dealing with everything that happened was and is not easy.
And I managed to get a temp job within 3 days!!!
Sheba was there for me throughout everything I went through. She was and is my guardian angel.
My choir family was there for me too. They all made me laugh and cheered me up. And unexpectedly, two choir friends supported me through this too.
Thank you guys for supporting me at a very difficult time in my life, not many would have done for someone they don’t really know that well.
After a couple of weeks, I managed to get a job back at the Uni, although I’d said I’d never go back. LESSON 14- NEVER SAY NEVER ( this lesson I learned over and over the following months).
I felt I was back home as soon as I walked in when I went for my interview. I needed a job I could learn how to do quickly, I couldn’t face a brand new challenge at this point in my life. I needed stability and time to heal... (also Sheba still works there, which is a bonus). So I went for it.
And I am glad I did. My managers and colleagues have been very supportive and understanding through all of this… and there have been times it was hard being at work but they supported me every single time…
After a month I felt my life got back on track… my ex and I still lived together until the end of our contract 2 months later (which proved extremely difficult and painful, especially a month later, it will make sense after reading my next post), but I had a new job, at a workplace which felt and feels like home, working with lovely colleagues, chatting all day, having a laugh. I started making new friends, going out more… having fun…
And then something unexpected happened… again!!! ‘3 months ago’ coming next…
Lessons I learned after I turned 30 
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